Expansion Mastery – ON SALE!

Get your autographed copy of Expansion Mastery: The Practical Guide to Living a Fully Engaged Life for ONLY $5!!! That’s a savings of 75%! 

C’mon, you know that makes you want to do a little happy dance. Go ahead, no one’s watching, kick your shoes off and bust that happy dance move. Yeah, there you go. Feels good, right? Now, jump online and order your autographed copy of this outstanding book while supplies last.

LEGAL STUFF: Right now you can get a signed copy of this highly insightful down-to-earth book for only $5.00 (plus shipping & handling). This is a limited time offer. Order as many as you like, there is no limit on the amount of books you can order at this price. Normal shipping costs do apply. But there’s nothing normal about the pure awesomeness of this great book, so order several copies at this ridiculously low price, and give them as gifts to those you care about. If you really loved them like you say you do, you’d give them a signed copy of this book. True story. Why are you holding back? Open your heart and set your love free – and share the goodness of Expansion Mastery. 

 

Expansion Mastery: Important Updates

Hey Everyone!

There’s a LOT of incredible things happening here at Expansion Mastery. I thought I’d share them so you stay informed and get to take advantage of everything being offered. I also wanted to express my sincere appreciation for every single one of you who takes their spiritual expansion seriously and supports us here at Expansion Mastery.

  1. Right now I’ve placed autographed copies of Expansion Mastery: The Practical Guide to Living a Fully Engaged Life on sale for ONLY $5.00 (plus shipping & handling). How awesome is that!? You save a massive 75%. Make sure to enter the special promo code: heavenonearth to take advantage of the huge savings on this outstanding book that’s been said to be ahead of its time. Well, the time is now. The ONLY time is now! Order yours today.
  2. The BREATH BRIDGE Program is now available at an introductory low price. Make sure you can safely, effectively and effortlessly shift your awareness from the external world to your inner world. This is THE BEST method for going inward in order to make the most of your meditation time.
  3. New content is being prepared for our YouTube channel. Yes, we have a YouTube channel and we’re going to be adding some awesome new content just for you. The channel is @robertdbessler and I’m creating all new short videos right now that’ll be posted there very soon. I have two different topic streams for this new content. The first will offer quick tips, about 2-3 minutes for engaging your practices more efficiently and effectively. The second will address how and why authentic spirituality is being lost due to a purposeful agenda of technocracy and dogma. This content will be available only on my YouTube channel.
  4. Make sure to like, follow, subscribe, and leave supportive comments to our Facebook page (@robertdbessler), Twitter page, and YouTube channel. Plus, you absolutely must tune into THE FULLY ENGAGED LIFE every Monday morning for the latest installment of authentic and down-to-earth spiritual insights and practices. It’s more important than ever to share our material with friends and family in order to preserve authentic, dogma-free spiritual practices. This is how you can actively take part in perpetuating the energy of the great consciousness shift forward, so humanity can evolve in the manner that nature intended.
  5. Watch for more updates as I’m involved in several amazing projects right now. Oh yeah, and the book about Soul-Mate relationships – that’s being edited and will be released soon. My wife and I have done a great deal of polishing with this book to make sure it’s perfect and we’ll reveal the truth about relationships. Learn how to attract the romantic relationship you desire and deserve.

Thanks Everyone! With Love and Appreciation,

~Robert

Super Special Celebration Discount Offer for June

Hey everyone!

As you’ve probably seen on Twitter and Facebook, or heard on my podcast show, The Fully Engaged Life, I’m offering a special birthday celebration discount through my website for the entire month of June. I’ll break it down for you here, because you’ll never forgive yourself if you miss out on this.

For the entire month of June, you can enter a special discount code on the products page of the website and get 75% off a signed copy of my book, Expansion Mastery: The Practical Guide to Living a Fully Engaged Life. Your get my book for only $5, plus shipping!

This is my way of celebrating my birthday with all of you.

You can order as many copies as you desire, as long as supplies last. I secured a limited number of books from my publisher for this special promotion. When they’re gone, they’re gone. This offer is effective for the month of June only, as of July first, the code will be rendered inactive, so don’t delay, act now!!

Oh yeah, the code. You may need that huh? Well, here it is…

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I encourage you to get several copies to give out to friends and family. These autographed books make great gifts and you help to spread the message of awakening and consciousness rising while helping the consciousness shift gain even more momentum. This is your chance to make a real difference in the world. Help those you care about to understand real spirituality through a practical and effective approach meant to help you succeed that’s presented in Expansion Mastery.

Can you keep a secret? Okay, lean in a little closer… If you listen to recent episodes of The Fully Engaged Life, you’ll hear a very special additional offer that I’m presenting only to listeners of my podcast show, at the end of the program. Check it out, you’ll be glad you did.

Are you able to keep that secret? Excellent! Then here’s another… I also made a different special offer available to those following my Facebook author page @robertdbessler. You can check out all the details on my author page. Decide which special offer fits your interests and save big while getting real, authentic spiritual practices. All that’s left to do is to engage the practices on a consistent basis.

Please make sure to follow my Facebook author page @robertdbessler. You can also follow me on Twitter, and soon on Steemit.  Make sure to subscribe to my podcast show, The Fully Engaged Life on your favorite podcast platform, and do your part to spread this information through sharing it on all your social media platforms.

Help me celebrate my birthday, by saving big on an incredible guidebook to living a fully engaged life. You are loved and appreciated!

~ Robert

News: Upcoming Programs & Events

Hey Everyone! Robert here!

Just a quick update to keep you up to speed with all the great things I have going on. I hope you enjoyed your Thanksgiving holiday, regardless of where you live in the world. The opportunity to openly share your appreciation is of great benefit and worthy of celebration. I will be taking a few days of solitude to set my course for the upcoming year, but my schedule is already filling up quick.

I have been invited, and just accepted, to teach at the Sports and Fitness Amputee Walking Clinic in Santa Clara, CA. on January 25th. This is a great honor, and Amy and I are so excited for the opportunity to serve others in this capacity. We will be teaching martial arts from the Kukishin Ryu as a way to increase stability and mobility while learning practical self-protection. This event is sponsored by the outstanding professionals at Prosthetic Solutions, Inc. Please contact them for details regarding this event.

I will be offering classes in Qigong and Martial Arts in Marin County, CA. in 2014. Anyone interested can contact me for details. I am also beginning a tour of various studios in order to promote Qigong. I feel this form of exercise is needed now more than ever. Please join us!

I just finished writing a testimonial for my Publisher’s new book! Its so exciting to be asked to that! I’m honored to be included in this incredible book in some small way, and I will be supporting it on this site once it’s released. When I was given advanced access to this book, I was taking notes non-stop. Awesome material!

I am also busy producing audio programs at this very moment. In the studio recording the first program now. It will be ready for release very soon. (watch for details here) I have 6 different audio programs scripted and we are working on having them all released in the upcoming year. I am very particular about these programs because I want you to be blown away by them. I am striving to have you feel they are worth 100 times what you’ll pay for them and that every program changes your life for the better. These programs are like nothing else out there. No fluff, just effective and practical methods to help you attain clarity in life and achieve your spiritual and personal growth goals. I will also be offering special bonuses that you can only get right here on this website, so check back often for details.

Amy and I are also working on a new book together. I have already created the framework for this great book and we are certain that everyone will be thrilled when this incredible information is released. There is also going to be an extensive audio program that is meant to be a companion for this book. Together, you will have the tools for  unbelievable relationship transformation. I can’t reveal everything, but I will share this… it is based off of one of the blog topics where I share the 10 ways of knowing whether you have something special, or if you haven’t found it yet. 😉

That’s it for now! More information coming soon. 🙂

 

 

Book Signing at Barnes & Noble Booksellers

Hey Everyone!

I just wanted to share an incredible experience with you – my first book signing and presentation event for Expansion Mastery: The Practical Guide to Living a Fully Engaged Life! I was invited to speak at the Barnes and Noble Booksellers in the East Bay recently. This is a beautiful two-story location with an outstanding staff.

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I have to admit, it’s quite astonishing to recall myself as a teenager wandering through my favorite local bookstores, browsing new arrivals and pausing to stare at the posters of visiting authors displayed throughout the store. I used to fantasize about what it must be like to be a real author and visit a bookstore to sign books and mingle with the fans and customers. I can remember thinking “how incredible that must be.” Now I find myself in Barnes and Noble where the posters on display are of me! Yeah, that’s just a little overwhelming to have your youthful fantasies collide headlong into your current reality. It’s a powerful experience to say the least that took some time to sink in.

My experience at the Emeryville, CA. Barnes and Noble was thrilling in every way. They had given me a wonderful display and posters, not to mention setting up an entire table and tabletop book display. I had a wonderful time speaking and the interaction from those attending was both enjoyable and impressive. the support from the staff was heart-warming as they made me feel right at home. I must admit that I was a bit stunned to see people holding my book who had the pages dog-eared, passages highlighted, and multiple book marks place strategically in the pages. That caught me by surprise. I especially enjoyed hearing people read passages I had written in the book back to me.

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Signing books for people at the table and signing a handful of extra copies for the store’s shelf was a great time, too.

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I have also been invited to hold a presentation and book signing at the Book Passage in Corte Madera, CA. on the 25th of August. This will be especially exciting for me as it was only one year ago that we were in the audience there listening to author Mike Dooley speak. We drove Mike to his hotel in San Francisco and then he made a few moments for me to interview him for my blog, which was awesome! He was even kind enough to buy me a beer afterward, as we continued our discussion off camera. Now I get to speak at this iconic independent bookstore as well. I feel that I now know what it means to be “living the dream.” 🙂

I understand that as human beings, the fear of death is one of the largest fears that we carry with us, but after two near-death experiences, I feel that its far more frightening to exist without truly living fully as your authentic self while you are alive. This is part of the message I am spreading – Live fully and be authentic! I hope if you are in the area that you will attend one of my book signing events, I would love to meet you in person. If you can’t join me in person, at least pick up your copy of Expansion Mastery. It is available in every English speaking country at this time including the U.K., Australia, New Zealand, Canada, and others. Its also available in electronic format for the Kindle, Nook and a dozen others.

An excerpt from my book, Expansion Mastery: The Practical Guide to Living a Fully Engaged Life was just featured as the lead article in a wonderful magazine about Taoism called, Empty Vessel. That’s was a great honor! We are currently setting up radio interviews and additional book signing events that will be including a special mega event with multiple local area authors who will be taking turns speaking throughout the day at another East Bay Barnes & Noble location that will be announced later this summer. I am currently busy writing multiple magazine articles for local and national magazines. My publisher is even talking to me about the possibility for my own radio program. Sound interesting? Let me know in the comment section if you would be interested in listening in to a weekly program. I would really enjoy hearing your thoughts.

I encourage anyone reading this to follow their dreams, no matter how impossible they may seem at the moment. Go for it! Live fully with excitement and energy. Be your authentic self and speak with your own voice, sharing your message with the world. I hope to see you soon. Wishing you all the best!

 

Expansion Express – That’s Not The Way I Perceived It

Hey Everyone! Robert here!

Picture this, if you will…

A small group of unacquainted people are courteously escorted to a hibachi table in the middle of a Japanese-style restaurant. Flames suddenly arise from surrounding tables as people cheer in delight at the antics of the hibachi chefs. Bite-size pieces of shrimp are being flailed about while tiny volcanoes made of onion rings spew “smoke.” Everyone in the group sits, gets settled into their seats and begins to browse the menu for refreshing cocktails and tasty entrees selections. This group is primarily made up of couples out for an evening meal and entertainment from the skilled hibachi chefs. There is the slight feeling of excitement and anticipation is in the air around the group as they’re aware of the stimulating interaction about to take place. The low murmur of voices begins as couples converse between themselves and their evening together begins.

One couple is sitting on the end of the table. They appear pleasant enough and are well dressed. As the evening progresses however, this couple complains about well… everything imaginable. It’s not what they ordered, it’s not what they wanted, it’s not prepared properly, the food is not hot enough, the drinks are not cold enough, the temperature in the restaurant is not right, it’s too noisy, the seats aren’t comfortable. Then, of course, they complain constantly about the service. Eventually, they begin to turn on each other. They begin to bicker and bite at one another, at one point even moving their chairs away from each other as much as they could within the limited space surrounding the hibachi grill. Then they argue and become agitated with each other. You know the type. They had a simply miserable time and made sure everyone was aware of it.

Meanwhile, another couple sitting on the corner seemed to be having a wonder experience. They were engaged in deep conversation with one another, fully engrossed in the experience of being together. They enjoyed the taste of a cocktail and their food was prepared perfectly. They enjoyed pleasant interactions with the chef and the wait staff, exchanging smiles and sentiments of appreciation. The service was spot on and very friendly, they never seemed to wait for anything or be served too quickly. This couple interacted with the hibachi chef, enjoyed the food, atmosphere, and clearly each other. It seemed as though they were having a loving, magical time.

The interesting thing is that both couples were at the very same restaurant, at the very same time, eating the same food prepared by the same chef, partaking of the same cocktails, experiencing the same service and atmosphere, and both were couples in a relationship to one degree or another. The stage was set and the scenario was exactly the same for both of these couples, yet one had an unquestionably miserable time while the other had an incredibly joyous experience.

It comes down to perception. Perception is basically an impression, discernment, or understanding based upon what is observed through sensory information and then what thoughts are associated with those observations – put very simply. Perception is a complex topic that I enjoy researching. Isn’t it fascinating that two different couples can share the same experience, yet due to the difference in their perception, one has a negative evening and the other has a positive evening? There is a self-help saying that goes, “If you can perceive it and believe it, you can achieve it.” Well, if you perceive a bad experience, form the belief that it will happen, then Bam! you will achieve it. Likewise, if you perceive an awesome experience, know it will be magical, then Bam! you achieve that. It comes down to taking responsibility for ourselves and our thoughts, doesn’t it?

The first couple seemed to sit with the expectations of having a bad time. Maybe they pull such childish stunts in an inexcusable attempt at getting a free meal, who knows. Either way, they experienced an insufferable couple hours. They got what they wanted and expected; a terrible time. Remember that “like attracts like.” So if their vibrations were low within themselves, they are certainly going to attract a low vibrational experience, even if it has to be created in their minds through their perception because it is not initiated by any outward reality. They experience the exact same situation as the second couple, but because of their low vibration and negatively driven perception, they have a highly negative experience. They came to have a bad time and they succeeded.

The second couple went out for the evening expecting to have a wonderful dinning experience. They were thrilled to be with one another, both of their vibrations were high and they had positive perceptions. They felt light, free, filled with appreciation and very happy. They attracted that type of experience into their outward reality. This couple came to have an enjoyable evening and they succeeded.

How do I know for certain the second couple had such a magical evening? Because the second couple in this story was Amy and I and we both continue to speak of this pleasing and entertaining evening. While we were obviously aware of the situation with the couple next to us, we did not allow their low vibration to infect our vibrations. We continued to have an incredible evening together while allowing the other couple to have a miserable one. Its just so interesting how you can have one situation with simultaneous experiences and one is negative and the other positive. To each their own reality.

Much of our reality is affected, if not actually created, by our perception. Certainly our thoughts create our reality and those thoughts are influenced by our perceptions. Are your perceptions geared toward the positive or negative? Are you stepping up and taking responsibility for your thoughts, perceptions, vibration, frame of mind, and so on? This is living a fully engaged life! When you no longer allow life to happen to you; you begin to take charge of your life. You begin to live an empowered and authentic life. This allows you mastery of yourself and in turn, of your reality.

I feel too, that your perceptions are deeply connected to not only your thoughts, but your vibration, and therefore, what you attract into your life experience. Pay attention to your experiences and be aware if you are causing a negative experience or a positive one. It’s completely up to you whether you have a great life or one of frustration.

Expansion Express – Can I Trust You?

Hey everyone, Robert here!

I have been tackling, what seems to me, to be some of the trickier topics to share in personal development – forgiveness and trust. While these two concepts are critical to our own healing due to the emotional potholes on the road on life, they are also necessary for us to function as our authentic adult selves.

The conventional thought on forgiveness is that it must end with complete reconciliation and the relationship returns to the way it was. While repairing the relationship is surely the most positive outcome, I contend this model is limiting the potential for growth, and in some cases not the best solution. The relationship is calling out for change, to resist that change is always detrimental to the personal growth of each party and the relationship itself. Relationships need to change and grow because those involved must change and grow. This usually begins when you learn to forgive yourself, then you can more easily forgive others. This is a large factor in the complexity of relationships which needs to not only be understood, but embraced. Not just in regards to the outcome, but in regards to personal and spiritual growth.

To forgive someone is the healing. It is potentially unhealthy to hold onto negative thoughts and emotions. However, sometimes after you have forgiven, the best outcome may be to create space and time. This allows both parties to heal as well as have the room to grow within the space created. No hard feelings need to be fostered or harboured there, it is simply a space for personal growth. If the relationship is not toxic, then it too will grow and reach its new phase. In some cases, the growth process will only occur through this separation, especially in those cases where the relationship was toxic to begin with. While many people desire things “to be as they were,” this is unrealistic, resistant to change, and results in stagnation as no growth can take place in keeping things as they are. Everything is changing all the time, it cannot be stopped, it needs to change for without it there is no growth. Without growth, there is only death.

So, let’s move into the topic of trust. While it may seem difficult to find trustworthy people in today’s world, I assure you they are out there. While there is truth to the fact that we cannot simply trust everyone we have some form of relationship with or even everyone we would like to trust, we should surround ourselves with those we can. It’s a matter of aligning your own vibration with those who are of higher caliber character. Over the past few years I have been meeting a large amount of new people. These people I consider to be friends, many I consider to be personal friends and I place my trust in them completely. I find that the more I trust myself and my own decisions, the more these people are willing to place their trust in me as well.

Just as forgiveness is about learning to fogive yourself, trusting others is the result of trusting yourself. Yes, once again we must dust off the mirror and look longingly at ourselves, as well as inside ourselves, first and foremost. That is where trust begins.

When I was young I had pretty bad control issues. I admit it. I was not an empowered, secure person when I was younger. How I managed to keep a relationship – I have no idea. Through lacking the ability to trust, I would respond by trying to hold on too tightly to what I had through attempting to control the situations and the people involved. Of course it resulted in failure every single time. There is no other outcome to such a scenario. The rock band .38 Special understood it – “Hold on loosely” is the name of one of their famous #1 hits. Yes, this dates me pretty good, but it still amazes me how .38 Special knew it and yet I was to dense back then to really grasp what they were singing about and actually apply it to myself. I was simply unable to at that point in my life. Through the practices I eventually learned, which are contained within the Expansion Mastery System, I learned that this inability to trust others was not the fault of theirs, it was mine. Ouch. It came back to feelings and beliefs that I could not handle the pain and humiliation if someone betrayed me in some way. Sound at all familiar? If so, don’t worry there is a light at the end of the tunnel! 🙂 If I can do this, so can you!

Through powerful practices of inner reflection and inner honesty I began to reform some of the beliefs I had, understanding why they formed the way they did in the first place. Here are some highlights that may offer you a little sunshine on your own situation…

1. I realized that much of my feelings of fear and betrayal stemmed from the separation of my parents when I was a young teenager as well as rejection from my childhood peers. I then understood that those feelings formed into beliefs. Those beliefs were the product of a child and they really had no role now that I was an adult and therefore they needed to change. I then set out to change the beliefs and the feelings changed automatically. In addition, I realized that these feelings and beliefs resulted from me not liking myself very much. I had to undergo intensive practices that allowed me to forgive myself and have the ability to not just like who I was, but to completely and unconditionally love myself.

2. I realized that I didn’t trust myself to make the right life decisions. I should have, I made some good ones through my teenage years, such as never trying drugs or cigarettes. I’m sure you have made some good decisions in your life as well. I later learned too that when I felt fearful, controlling and insecure the most was when I was making decisions that took me off of my authentic life path. This is an important point – please think deeply on this. As I look back, when I allowed life to happen to me or when others were allowed to control my life choices, these feelings of mistrust became more intense. Now that I make conscious, mindful decisions to live my authentic life, these feelings of mistrust have been replaced with feelings of deep, loving trust and they are continuously reinforced through my life experiences. In other words, as I trust, I attract more reasons and people to trust in. Pretty sweet deal, huh?

3. I found too, that as I became more sensitive to my environment and to my physical body (inside and out) I was able to feel who I could justifiably place my trust in and who I should not trust. As we know, there are people in life who cannot and should not be trusted. I simply separate myself from such people now. There is no room in my authentic experience for those who are not trustworthy. I also know I am deserving of this because I act in an open and trustworthy manner towards others. Even all of my great business friends stress transparency and full disclosure in their own business practices, but this also overflows into their personalities as well. It’s just who and how they are. These are the people I choose to surround myself with and interact with in regards to business.

4. I have also realized that I should not allow my trust in people to be so easily shaken every time they act in a way that I may not agree with. I have learned to instead, place my trust in the fact that they are doing what they need to for themselves. I have to trust in their ability to make their own life decisions even if they spark a change in our relationship. this allows me to be “fluid” in my relationships, allowing the relationship itself and all involved to grow and change as nature intended. I trust in the bigger picture of life.

Look inside yourself. Look into your own heart and begin to place your well deserved trust in yourself. If you can’t trust yourself how can you expect others to trust you? Once you trust in yourself, it opens a space of authenticity within your heart and your life opens up, blooming like the most beautiful rose you have ever seen. Stay mindful to the times when you don’t feel trusting, that may be alerting you to the fact that you are straying from your life path and purpose.

I am not a “drama-addict” so I prefer a drama-free life. I enjoy peace, quiet and tranquility. I find that by surrounding myself with those who I know to be trustworthy, I have drama-free friends and business friends. People who crave drama and surround themselves with it are exhausting. I prefer inspiring to exhausting.

When you trust, your vibration raises and your heart expands. This allows you to attract positive things into your life and live from a place of self-love, self-trust, self-forgiveness and self-empowerment. This makes it much easier to love, trust, forgive and empower others. I now find that being able to place my full trust in people to be an incredible feeling! I place 100% of my unconditional trust in my finace’ and this is an extremely crucial aspect to out relationship. Likewise, I give her every reason to be able to place 100% of her trust in me. It is tantamount to a healthy relationship that you both trust yourselves and each other fully. Accept nothing less for yourself in your own relationships, you deserve it. I trust that you will make the right decision. 😉

Expansion Express – Able To Forgive Yet?

Hey everyone, Robert here!

Let’s continue to keep all the good people of the East Coast in our thoughts and prayers. I hope all of your friends and family are accounted for, warm, dry and healthy.

In the last video post, I covered some basic ideas of forgiveness. Now, I know that many people do not like to hear that they have to begin the healing process of forgiveness by looking at themselves. It can be a hard thing to hear at first and a harder thing to do, but this is another reason why I stress the importance of having a warrior spirit. There are times when taking a long and honest look in the mirror can be the most difficult thing we could do. It’s easy to get caught up in all the fluff and silliness often associated with spiritual growth, and those types of teachings can make you feel all warm and fuzzy – for a moment. But, they will not produce real spiritual and personal growth. They mostly just stroke the ego in a passive way while supplying the illusion of spiritual practice. This path can be challenging. It takes real courage and a strong desire to experience true, lasting growth no matter what. I share this truth with you because I know that you have this courage, and the strength to succeed.

Forgiveness, in part, is the realization that others have their own life experiences to live, just as you and I do. Sometimes, they need to do what is best for themselves, even if we cannot see it that way. Often times, when these situations occur, it is allowing the other person to be their authentic self and step into their power, while at the same time providing us with the opportunity to grow or learn a life lesson. Yes, in life people sometimes do things to unfairly wrong us. Sometimes these people may be our own parents. Let’s face it, some people are simply toxic or even mentally unbalanced. But that is still their life experience and our interaction with them provides us with the opportunity to grow. It doesn’t always mean making up and having a close relationship. Sometimes it means separating ourselves from them, giving ourselves some space – space we need in order to grow. The growth comes from forgiveness. More often than not, forgiveness is about helping and healing ourselves, not something that is projected toward another. We cannot force others to act the way we may want them too. This is the desire of the controlling ego and will always cause you pain and suffering.

By harbouring hard feelings toward someone else or being angry with them, we lower our own vibration. Which is not good. Carrying around these negative emotions may also lead to negatively impacting our own physical health. It is becoming increasingly understood that negative emotions can lead to physical disease (“dis-ease”) such as cancer. By offering forgiveness, we let go of these negative, potentially harmful emotions and allow our vibration to increase as well as possibly maintaining our physical health and well-being. For any serious martial artists out there, this is the goal of training – to become powerful enough that we are not affected (ie – our vibration does not become lowered by anger or fear) by others even while we are in the process of fighting for our lives.

We also have to understand that the real reason we may have trust issues is because we don’t really trust ourselves. Trust begins from within as well. Once you begin to truly trust in yourself, it becomes much easier to trust in others and no longer have your trust so easily shattered. I can recall when I had the most serious trust issues was when I was a controlling person. I was this way because of my own insecurities and feelings of powerlessness. Fortunately, I was able to turn that around and so can you. Of course, in our modern society, we cannot simply trust everyone. That would be foolish. However, for those we know and love, trust should come easy and not be so easily shaken.

This is why I encourage people to first look at their own perceptions of right and wrong, look at their own expectations of others and see first if your own ego is at the root of this situation. The ego is usually at fault for our unhappiness or suffering. Once you sit down and give some honest thought to this, you may see how your ego is partially at fault, it is then that you can begin to work on subduing the ego and making real spiritual progress. Once this happens, you can begin to forgive and move forward in your own life and possibly (hopefully) in your relationship as well. If the situation is one that requires separation in order to heal and move forward, there is nothing wrong with that. It is a natural part of life. Just do your best to remain open to allowing the other person back into your life when the time feels right.

Here are some steps in the process of forgiveness….

1. Think about what happened that caused your feelings of being wronged and caused your lack of trust. Be willing to be completely honest and objective with yourself. Reflect on your own perceptions, expectations and desires.

2. Look at yourself before looking at another. Was your ego at fault for these feelings? Did the other person actually wrong you or were they merely attempting to live their life as their authentic self and that clashed with the way you wanted them to act? Become clear on this.

3. If it appears that the other person indeed caused you real mental, emotional, or physical distress, then you may need to create separation between you until the other person seeks help for their behaviors or experiences some form of personal growth. If they do not do so, then it may be time to walk a path that is different from this person’s. Often times, if it is someone we love, this can mean simply limiting your time or contact with them, keeping a safe distance. Do your best to avoid cutting them out of your life completely. I can tell you from past experience that this one is a poor choice.

4. If you discover that your own ego may be at fault for your suffering, then it’s time to roll up your sleeves and get to work on yourself. Subduing the ego is at the very core of real, life-changing spiritual practice. Then you can set about repairing the relationship and making it a close and beneficial one for you both once again. You may also need to request their forgiveness. Yes, this is a two-way street.

5. Let go of the negative feelings toward the other person. There are practices I will be sharing where you learn to dissolve the negative emotions and recycle them into positive emotions in order to give you more fuel for your spiritual expansion. This will result in you being able to raise your vibration and add inner strength to your pursuit of spiritual growth.

6. Once your vibration has raised, you will notice that forgiveness is a much easier task. Once you forgive, you will free yourself of the chains of hard feelings and experience a sense of emotional freedom. Your perception may shift, allowing you to accept others and situations more freely without judgment or the need to control.

I believe that this sense of freedom and raised vibration is the practical reason that we have the statement “to forgive is divine.” Experience your divinity through forgiveness. Allow yourself and others to be who they are and live an authentic life. You will find that this leads to far greater happiness and often times, a far greater relationship for all involved. You may find yourself living in a far more empowered space as a result.

Remember that “love conquers all.” This does not refer to the romantic notion that love will overcome all obstacles resulting in happiness as Hollywood likes to promote – that is entertainment not truth. The phrase – “love conquers all” refers more accurately to the fact that love is the highest form of vibration. Love overcomes all other vibrations. Love is the Universe or God. When you forgive, you realign yourself with love and the Divine. Sounds like a pretty good idea to me. 🙂

Facebook Fan Page – Please “Like”

Hey everyone, Robert here!

Just a quick note for those of you who are not aware. I just launched my Facebook Fan Page. It’s very exciting and I am hoping that all of you will help me to boost the number of “Likes” on the page so it looks as though I actually do have some fans, or at least people who kinda like me. 😉 Get your friends, family, neighbors and even random people you stop on the street to go there and “Like” it.

All of your support is greatly appreciated. If you happen to have a fan page or something that I can “Like” to share my support for you in return, just list it in the comment section below and I will put the smack-down on the “Like” button for you. Anyone else visitng the blog can do the same if they so desire.

Community is important and mutual support for one another is one good way for us to be connected. Thanks again for visiting the blog and for your wonderful, intelligent, and positive comments here on Expansive Expressions!

Expansion Express – Experiencing It For Yourself

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Hey everyone, Robert here!

I hope you are ready to live another glorious day of your life. I trust that you are.

I have talked at length about the idea of thinking for yourself. You are all well versed in that and most likely masters by now. So, I would like to expand on this concept a bit to include “experiencing for yourself.”

Get out in the world and rely on your own experiences. Don’t always rely on an app that offers the perceptions of others to dictate what experiences you do and do not have. Just because someone around you isn’t having a good experience does not mean that you aren’t. Maybe they are having a bad day, or things are not what they expected, or they just crave drama, or maybe they have an unrealistic sense of entitlement that is reflected in a poor experience for them. That’s their experience. They live theirs and you live yours.

While these guides offer helpful advice, they should be used with a degree of common sense and not be the sole source of your decisions. I believe that’s their intended use. Besides, once you are in conscious control of creating your life, you can just usually create a great time anyway. Obviously if a place has continuously poor ratings, then common sense tells us to perhaps make another choice. Just try not to fear going in the opposite direction of the masses, usually that’s where the greatest experiences are.